Friday, May 6, 2011

I Kissed Dating Good-bye

I Kissed Dating Goodbye (updated edition), Joshua Harris, Multnomah, Nonfiction/Young Adult, 2003, 221 pages.

I Kissed Dating Goodbye (Revised) (Paperback)Synopsis: Joshua Harris's first book, written when he was only 21, turned the Christian singles scene upside down...and people are still talking. More than 800,000 copies later, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, with its inspiring call to sincere love, real purity, and purposeful singleness, remains the benchmark for books on Christian dating. Now, for the first time since its release, the national #1 bestseller has been expanded with new content and updated for new readers. Honest and practical, it challenges cultural assumptions about relationships and provides solid, biblical alternatives to society's norm.

My thoughts: I understood Joshua Harris’ viewpoint on dating really well. Frankly, I just about agree with him. The worldly view of dating equates love with sex, and that premarital intimacy is expected. This is not how Christians are to see dating and marriage. I am certainly no master in this subject, but this book is very thorough and convicting.

The solution that Harris gives, “kissing dating good-bye,” has a good reason behind it. He states that dating can easily be taken to extremes, such as a late-night car ride, and then it takes the focus off of God, and isn’t done for the glory of God. Harris urges us to pursue marriage in such a way that glorifies God, rather than ourselves.

Where I disagree with Harris is where he thinks dating should not happen. However, to his credit, he only applies it to himself. He encourages us to date, as long as God, and not us, is given the focus. He also warns us not to use that as an excuse to follow passion and selfish pleasure.

Overall, I recommend this book highly, because it gives a wonderful overview of dating; how it should be done, and how it shouldn’t.

*This book was provided free by Blogging For Books. I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions expressed are my own.*

Rating: 5 stars

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  1. I got a signed copy back in the nineties when the first edition came out. Joshua Harris was at a youth conference as a speaker and I was there as a chaperon. I really saw sense in what he said, but my own children did not embrace his philosophy :) I'm not sure I would have either back in the day...It takes strong self discipline and belief in this type of stand to make it do-able, especially in today's society

  2. This book made me rethink all I had thought of dating. I have grown closer to God through reading this book and it's very encouraging. I recommend it to any teenager, it will definitely change their lives.